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The Art of Being Yourself

March 24, 2011

Leaving the Scene II - oil - $150I have spent that last few days contemplating how two people who were raised in what seemed to me to be the same environment, could turn out so incredibly different.  This is not to say that one is better than the other, just soooo different.

I see this difference all around me.  I see the difference in my sisters, my sons and members of other families.  It is wonderful really, on so many levels.

My mind is leaning towards a reality that each of us carries with us our own personal ‘tool box’. In this box is held our genetic markers, our family and friends, our education and interests, our life experience.  Everything we need to be who we are.  The trick is to fill the box with those things that truly belong to us and no one else.  As one grows and matures we tend to extract those ‘tools’ from our box that no longer belong.

When many of us were young we spent much effort on trying to fill our box with ‘tools’ borrowed from friends or maybe our favourite performers.  As time goes by some ‘tools’ that were once useful become obsolete and we chose new ones to do the job.  Wise are the ones that allow the ‘tools’ to come and go as they might.  Trying to control entry and exit can be a daunting task and lead to an overcrowded ‘tool box’ that requires house cleaning.  Some tools are in your box for your whole life whether we like it or not.

The cool aspect of the ‘tool box’ is its mystery. One can certainly see the ‘self’ as an art form, ever developing, ever changing.  As Robert Bateman once eloquently put it “The truly important stuff is absolutely enigmatic and intuitive.  All the rest is mechanics.”  Seems to apply equally to the ‘self”as it does to the creation of a piece of art.

A large amount of time can be wasted trying to figure out who we are and why we are the way we are.  It is a mystery and as Rumi so apply  put it “Mysteries are not to be solved.  The eye goes blind when it only wants to see why.”

Being yourself is just that, being yourself. Let the mystery unfold as it will – no explanation required.

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  1. April 4, 2011 7:11 pm

    Hi Lynn! Dona just told me about your blog and I’ve spent the last half hour reading a great deal of it. What a beautiful work of art! I look forward to more posts.

    I blog at if you’re interested.

    Take care and happy writing!

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